Polygamory, Swinging, ecstasy and jealousy

I have always been a romantic at heart and I have time and again realized that all those romantic ideas which never seem such a big deal would always remain just that – Romance of the heart. Thus the idea of Polyamory(The desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved) always looks so fascinating to me. What is the problem the heart would ask? Love is an expression of fondness of the heart and just because I love one person does not mean that I can not love any other person with equal intensity. A mother does love all her children and would do everything she can for all of them, a teacher would care equally well for all his pupils etc etc. The heart would try to reason out what logically look like pretty uncomplicated things. But the harsh truth is that we are living in an imperfect world and whatever we might try to believe the imperfection surfaces time and again and shatters all those romantic ideas. The mother always has a favorite child, the teacher always has a favored pupil etc etc and the bottom line is that that living world of ordinary mortals you can never create Utopia. Things like jealously, hatred and treachery would always creep in into any relation and this is also true for any polyamorous relationship. I was reading an article yesterday in which was describing one such polyamorous relationship in which two couples move in together and start doing and sharing everything together. The bonding becomes so strong that the kids also start feeling that they have two set of equally loving parents, But all this does not last for long and Mr A separates with Mrs Y and Mr X separates with Mrs B. And in the end I was not surprised at all that this swap and split happened because by now I fully understand the human nature in which emotions like jealousy always have a strong hold.

But why am I talking about Polyamory? Because one of my friends yesterday remarked that even if you are swinging it should have some element of intimacy as well as emotional bonding. But my point of view is that my bringing in element of emotional intimacy between two couples unnecessary complicates the things and we humans are generally very poor in handling complications that arise in relationships. So we should be only looking for an element of “Sexual Ecstasy” and nothing more than that. Lets not forget that Sexual Ecstasy was the main reason why we got initiated into swinging in the first place so why complicate things when we can keep them simple.