Is God a Swinger?

Yesterday I found myself stuck in a traffic jam and in a couple of minutes I was wishing upon the stars to give me wings so that I can fly though the traffic jam. I was getting late for the swingers party I had to organize and because of my busy schedule this week I hardly found any time to plan and prepare anything in advance. I had promised a few new activities I needed to be at the venue in time to make sure everything goes smoothly. While trying hard to hold my nerves in the traffic jam I found this gentleman on my right honking wildly at me and the desperation on his face told me that something was wrong. Had I hit his car unknowingly and caused a damage which was irreparable? Then I saw him pointing his fingers and my heart sank because it was much worse than what I feared, I had a flat wheel!!! I could hear people honking at me left, right north and south. I was already getting such nasty looks from my fellow earthlings as if I had committed a triple murder and was standing with the weapon of murder in my hand at the crime scene. Thankfully, I had renewed my cross roads subscription a couple of days back so at least I knew I help would be only a call away(that subscription for once looked like the best investment I had done in the whole year). And as I waited for help I was forced to do the thanks less job of a traffic cop(that too an untrained one) who every passer by was abusing as if taking part in a free for all competition. I did not even dare to ask for help from anyone because I could not afford anyone peeping inside my car because with all those apparatus lying in the car they would have certainly thought I was some sex maniac on the loose..........................

Fast forward my saga to 35 minutes and I found myself as among a lovely group of people. I was greeted with such enthusiasm that my ego immediately took an instant boost. I narrated them my harrowing experience and the concern and affection that I was shown was almost unbelievable. Under normal circumstances I would not surprised as I know from experience that genuine swingers are an emotionally educated community but after having such a bad time the place where I found myself was looking divine. Everybody was so polite so courteous and chivalry that sounds like a Victorian word these days was seen every where. The hugs were just as warm as the hellos and the smiles were so infectious that I felt like I had finally come home. From a state of utter chaos and confusion where I was screaming inside me “dilli to pagal hai” to a state which had such a calming affect on me that the quick transformation almost looked magical. It left me asking the question” Is this what Utopia would be like?”. Within a couple of minutes with some helping hands I hands I had set everything up and seeing the cheerful lot I knew that the party had already started. And as I sit here and think about what all happened last night I wonder “Is god a swinger?”

Groping parties for first time swingers

I get many mails daily from couples and single ladies asking me about the best way to get initiated to this whole concept of swinging. All of them have the same concerns and the most common being whether they would like it at all!!! So for all such newbie’s we have decided to hold Groping Parties. As the name suggests these would be limited to groping and voyeur. There would be play areas meant specifically for groping and exploring (areas for both men and women) and also there would be rules associated with each play area which we expect everyone to obey. If you are outside the play areas then you can just sit relax and indulge into voyeurism and without any pressure to participate.


So if swinging was always your fantasy now is the time for you to experiment and see the reality is as good as the fantasy!!!!! Rather than jumping straight into it you can just let the atmosphere rub over you so that when you jump into it, it’s a memorable and enjoyable experience for you.

Those interested can mail me at swingers.india@gmail.com. Please make sure you are ready to meet me personally for a “screening step" which is important to ensure that only particular kind of people are part of our universe.

Note: The gathering would be held for 5-10 couples/single women. The strength would under no circumstance go beyond this number. The party is specifically meant for those who don’t have any experience in swinging.

What's love got to do with it?

Most of us may not accept this fact but most of the times we are performing the act of sex just as a pure form of deriving pleasure. Most of us would willingly go that extra mile to make that feeling of ecstasy that comes with orgasm last long. So until and unless you are consciously practicing tantra (tantra is a mystical experience born out of the union between man and woman. It is an opportunity to open to energy rising up through your body and to experience merging with the Divine) most of our sexual encounters are just another activity of seeking material pleasures. No matter how long I go about justifying it but within my heart I know that I can not associate the feeling of bliss of being love with the joys of sex. If you look at it the reasoning is very simple – Most of us get aroused on seeing erotic scenes but there in no element of love involved here, Most of us would masturbate for feeling that orgasmic pleasure and certainly there is no element of love or emotions involved in it. So most of the times the experience is not necessarily related to love so I should not be making such a big fuss about it when my girl friend goes and has sex with some other guy. Just because she had sex with someone does not mean that she loves me less ………..

Polygamory, Swinging, ecstasy and jealousy

I have always been a romantic at heart and I have time and again realized that all those romantic ideas which never seem such a big deal would always remain just that – Romance of the heart. Thus the idea of Polyamory(The desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved) always looks so fascinating to me. What is the problem the heart would ask? Love is an expression of fondness of the heart and just because I love one person does not mean that I can not love any other person with equal intensity. A mother does love all her children and would do everything she can for all of them, a teacher would care equally well for all his pupils etc etc. The heart would try to reason out what logically look like pretty uncomplicated things. But the harsh truth is that we are living in an imperfect world and whatever we might try to believe the imperfection surfaces time and again and shatters all those romantic ideas. The mother always has a favorite child, the teacher always has a favored pupil etc etc and the bottom line is that that living world of ordinary mortals you can never create Utopia. Things like jealously, hatred and treachery would always creep in into any relation and this is also true for any polyamorous relationship. I was reading an article yesterday in which was describing one such polyamorous relationship in which two couples move in together and start doing and sharing everything together. The bonding becomes so strong that the kids also start feeling that they have two set of equally loving parents, But all this does not last for long and Mr A separates with Mrs Y and Mr X separates with Mrs B. And in the end I was not surprised at all that this swap and split happened because by now I fully understand the human nature in which emotions like jealousy always have a strong hold.

But why am I talking about Polyamory? Because one of my friends yesterday remarked that even if you are swinging it should have some element of intimacy as well as emotional bonding. But my point of view is that my bringing in element of emotional intimacy between two couples unnecessary complicates the things and we humans are generally very poor in handling complications that arise in relationships. So we should be only looking for an element of “Sexual Ecstasy” and nothing more than that. Lets not forget that Sexual Ecstasy was the main reason why we got initiated into swinging in the first place so why complicate things when we can keep them simple.

The joy of making love with clothes ON

A couple of days I was invited over to a party to play the role of a host. A bunch of couples were trying swinging for the fist time and the whole idea was to make it more of a fun and frolic event than making it some kind of experiment.. The idea of seeing myself into a new role motivated me and I immediately shot back a mail suggesting that there be a dress code for the party and that everyone should be wearing traditional Indian dresses (Sarees and Kurtas). From my past experiences I know that traditional Indian dresses can be very sensuous in some circumstances :-)

Finally on the day I found myself amongst three most vivacious couples I have come across in the recent months. After an hour of playing some very naughty games I was asked by this lovely lady about when I was intending to announce the start of the real games. Giving her a beaming smile I said that the games had already started. She gave me a confused look so I took this opportunity to make an announcement as a host that the rule for the night was that no one was going to strip off any clothes tonight. No un-buttoning, no unzipping whatever has to be done needs to be done with clothes on. Every one was giving me an amused look so I put them a simple question “Look back and remember what was the most exciting experience you had …It was when you had your first kiss…when you fondled his/her body for the first time … .and come to think of it you had all your clothes on at that time!!!!!” .In telling all this what I was trying to explain was that you don’t have to be all naked to be enjoying those sexual pleasures…its all in the ambiance and most importantly it’s the state of mind. So without wasting any further time I jumped into my role as a host and initiated them into a couple of erotic activities that I had mastered over the years. And within a couple of minutes the scene tuned into an erotic playground with passions soaring so high that I thought that it would be very difficult for everyone to stay clothed but everyone was sporting and all of them managed to stay in their clothes. Seeing everything going according to plan all I needed to do was to judge the right timing when the passion would grow so out of control that it would be on the verge of bursting out. The moment I felt that the time had come I asked each of them to go into the rooms with their “own partners” where they were allowed to take of their clothes. And while I sat down and drank my pepsi I knew that everyone would be having one of the most mind blowing sex they would have ever had with their partners. At the end of it all it was a job WELL DONE :-)

SDC Swingers Date Club

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