Don’t believe everything you read…….

A couple of days back I came across an article in a reputed national daily about a swinger’s party and even though I am a swinger myself I was shocked to see the drooping standards of media. That newspapers had been turned into tabloids is now a generally accepted fact but they would resort to such tricks to attract more readers shows clearly that they have run short of ideas. So as a last resort the editor tells the journalist to come up with some sexually titillating content and the journalist sits down and starts thinking …and viola…he comes with a brilliant idea…the idea which he has been always fantasizing of and he beings to pen his fantasies as if everything really happened. And naturally this is something which has been a part everyone’s fantasies at some point or the other so it becomes an instant hit. This reminds me of a word that I leant form the book “Word Power Made Easy (a book which most of us would have read) – Vicarious. And obviously the journalist also remembered this word well and very shrewdly wrote an article which made the masses indulge in vicarious pleasures.

But why am I writing so strongly against such an innocuous looking report. Because it is anything but innocuous. When people read these kinds of articles they say “Well it was not only me who was thinking of these kinds of things. These things do happen and people enjoy them too”. Now the gap between fantasy and realty blurs and it starts looking like a very normal thing to do. The feeling of being vindicated rules supreme you and you can hear them saying this to their spouses “See this is not only me. Everyone seems to be doing it and enjoying it.” . And suddenly they begin to hear wife swapping stories from everywhere…..from their friends….from their relatives and the desire to try it becomes even stronger and this is where the problem starts. They jump into swinging, encouraged by the stories they hear but only end up having a very bad experience. The point I am trying to make that such stories would always do rounds in the press, in your social circles, in offices etc as they have that sexually titillating effect. Everyone like to talk about them as it gives them that mild erotic pleasure……But we need to remember that no all what we hear is true. And the truth is :

SWINGING IS ABOUT A LIFE STYLE. It can begin as an experiment but can not be an enjoyable experience if you are unable to adapt it as an alternate lifestyle. Genuine swingers are generally very sure and open about their sexuality. Relationships can go bitter over the issues of sexuality so the real swingers are generally very sure as to what they want and what they don’t want. And the most important part is swinger community is a very sensitive community. Swingers Community would collapse if they don’t respect the concerns and sensitivities of others so they never go around spreading stories.