10,000 and going strong………………..

F5, F5 and F5 once again. This was the key I was pressing the whole day today and finally just a minute back I finally reached a milestone that I was so impatiently waiting for – the 10,000 inquiry mail in my mail box :-). I had set it as some sort of personal milestones for me and seeing the mail count reach 995 I was anxiously keeping an eye on my gmail account. I could today feel the agony of a batsman stuck in the nervous nineties, and I can now tell you that it’s really painful to be left waiting like this. But anyway now that I have interacted through so many people and organized a couple of very successful parties I would like to present my view of the current state of sexuality in India. There are many other revelations also that come out strikingly from the mails I receive I would like to stick here to the topic that we all love to talk about!!!!!

· Lack of Respect of women: This is the most thing that comes out from most of the mails. Anyone who would go through my blog would realize that what I run is not a wife swapping club but an avenue where like mined people meet and indulge in sexual explorations. It is not a “You do my wife and I would do yours”. All activities happen in the same room and it is very much possible with women making their own choices irrespective of what their spouses do. Both can make their choices independently of each other. But still 90% of mails I get are about wife swapping, wife sharing where the language used even shows that how men treat their wives to get something that is otherwise elusive to them. When I tell my concept to people the first question that they ask me is:

“If my wife is going with someone then what happened if his wife refuses to go along with me” This is the most asked question and this put in cruder way is :”I would allow you to fuck my wife if you allow me to fuck yours”. I take pains to make them understand that well this is all about everyone doing what they enjoy so if your wife is enjoying with someone or a group then well let her do it and you can sit and have a glass of juice :-) (Remember no drinks allowed)

· Swinging is not yet an alternate lifestyle and we are not yet a sexually liberated society: Someone who can read between the lines and who can deduce inference would be able to make out that most people in India would indulge in swinging not because they enjoy this lifestyle but because this is the most easy and accessible way to get sex. I am not denying the fact that genuine swinger’s exist in India too but the percentage is very miniscule as compared to those who are using their wives to get easy sex. You would agree with me that for a average person hunting for sex is still a difficult task in the Indian society so people tend to take an alternate route. A decent professional escort can go upto 25K per night and not all can afford that , so the other option is exercised that is of using your wife. To stress this point I would like to bring out a figure that as much as 70% of email I get are 2 liners and those two liners are also in badly written English. The mails would go like :

“we have a couple from delhi iam 38 and33 we have intrested in sweeping please mail me what is the prosiger and wheare are meating plase email id is “
One more point that I would put to support my argument here is that out of the I have got only 3 mails which say that they enjoy MMF threesomes rest everyone was looking for FMF.

Bisexuality….What would that be?
Of all the parties I have organized so far I have seen bisexual action happening in only 2 of them. We are more orthodox when it comes to sexual expression. Though I truly respect everyone sexual choices but I am making this point just to emphasize the fact that we might not necessarily ape the sexuality of the west and we can have our own sexual behaviors and peculiarities.

Lack of Sex Education: The only disease that couples know exist is AIDS and most would not know that there are many equally dangerous STD’s that can spread even if you are doing oral sex. And you would not even believe it that many men even put their preferences that they don’t like to wear condoms!!!!!

These were some of my observations that I wanted to share with the readers of my blog but that does not mean that you would never find genuine swingers if you set out to fine one. Our parties is all about having fun and all the couples have to go through a very strict scanning procedure to get an invitation to the swingers party. Only those who have the right attitude to enjoy responsibly are invited and one of the main considerations is that they should believe in the freedom of sexual expression of their partners. So our parties are full of fun and frolic where lots of animated activities take place. Women volunteer to take part in games of a different dimension and men cheer them on. And that’s the fun part when everyone can enjoy like there is one big party going on……………….

And the two wishes for my birthday are…….

There are many kinds of sexual kinks people have. While in the west because of sociological reasons you would get many type of fetish/kinks(we cannot even imagine in India that there would be so many people of would love to get inflicted with pain and humiliation) you would not have many people with fancy kinks and fetishes in India. How many of us who don’t frequent the net often would understand the meaning of terms like cuckold, Dom, Sub..? I can bet very few. But any ways I would lay down the two kinks that are on the top of my list - To spend couple of hours with a truly submissive woman and to play the voyeur guy. The realization of first kink is impossible here so that leaves the possibility of second kink wide open. There must be some couples(even of they are gay or lesbians) out there who would have had the crazy kink of getting watched by a stranger? So if you happen to read this article and you also accidentally happen to have any of the two kinks then I am waiting for an invitation from your side!!!!! Mail me at swingers.india@gmail.com  and with my birthday falling this month I can take it as a birthday gift….and yes I would also happily take belated birthday wishes ;-0

If you look back in your life what do you remember………………..?

Recently I was asking this question to each and everyone I bumped into. If you look back in your life what are the happiest moments you remember if you look back in your life. For some it was their first bicycle ride, for some it was their first date when they first held hand, that romantic dinner, that holiday with friends, college farewell, their house warming parties, the first word that their kid spoke……..the list goes on. But helloooo wait wait wait don’t we see something missing in the list.? No one mentioned about – that awesome sex they had the other night!!!!!! And this brings me to the point that I am trying to make that just as you would not fondly remember that lovely cake you at the other day, in a similar way you would not fondly cherish sex when you look back and try to reminisce on the best moments of your life. 

So can sex be divine?

Well if something is divine then that feeling lingers with you and it shows in everything you do. Just like love. When you feel loved you bask and it shows in everything you do in life. You would remember fondly the girl you loved as childhood sweetheart, you would remember how lovingly you made pancakes for your boyfriend…and after all these years even at the cost of feeling stupid at this mature age you would still lovingly let those thoughts come back to you and fill you with those emotions…… . But the same is most of times not true for sex. You just have a good experience (or a bad one :-) and you just forget!!!! So again this brings to me my final question that why we give sex so much importance when it plays such an insignificant role in our larger lives. Why do we make so many rules around it? Why do we judge people based on their sexual preferences? Why do we call someone of loose character when someone ends up doing sex with multiple partners..?