Threesomes and the Spirituality Meter

For last couple of days I have been posing this question to every man I meet (nearly every man I meet ) about what his fantasy was and one does not have to be a genius to figure out that nearly 90% of men answered that their fantasy was having a threesome with their better halves and another female. The rest 10% men said(I must confess though that I was surprised by this high percentage) that their fantasy was to see their wife in a threesome with them and another man. Frankly speaking these are the 10% who can be initiated easily into spiritualism because they are not all the times thinking about themselves. They have the sensitivities to care about their better halves too and when you care about others more than you care about yourself you know you are moving closer to god. And for those 90% self centered guys I would only say that your other half has a life too!!!!!

Extreme Programming, Tantra, HIV and the art of living in Ecstasy

Last night I visited a swingers club in second life and made some very good friends over there. Our conversations wandered through many topics and one topic I broached all of them suddenly stopped and shouted in unison “What, how can it be possible”. Well it was a reaction to the statement I made about feeling joys of sex without actually having intercourse. I remember this was the same puzzled reaction that I gave when I was first being taught about Test First Programming/Extreme Programming- “How can you write test cases for you code before writing a single piece of code?” But now when I am initiated into it I am thankful and even grateful to the concept for now every time I program I can find the joy in programming which other wise was just another mundane job I had to do.

The concept of sex without insertion and ejaculation come from the ancient Buddhism practice of Tantra in Buddhism. One of the basics tenets of Tantra is to look at things without focusing on external material evaluations of what our body looks like, what dress you wear, what is your hairstyle etc but it encourages you to explore new paths to sexual fulfillment. Incorporating ideas of Tantra into your sex life can be something anyone can do regardless of age and sexual orientation. Tantra sex is all about channeling our sexual energies in a way so that it leads to an increased awareness and that ultimately leads to fulfillment and enlightenment. This channeling requires that rather than the energies being released there is a continuous flow of energy in our body that creates a state of ecstasy that always stays with us irrespective of whether we had we had sex or not. So when once masters the art of tantra one remains in constant state of bliss that ultimately leads to a greater understanding of our inner self.

PS: In a world where HIV poses a real threat to the human race so much so that it can actually convert the process of procreation into the cause of human extinction Tantra holds a lot of promise and potential

Swinging to find contentment and get closer to god......

We as humans have made it a habit to run after everything that can give us material pleasures. In the process we forget the virtues and the joy of that one gets by drowning himself in godliness. A couple of years back I realized that I was also doing the same…..running …running …running , seeking more and more and in the process running away from my self and running away from that eternal feeling of bliss. So one day after a full filling orgy when I was sitting lying on the couch I realized that there were rarely any joys of life that equaled the state of joy I was then in. I was elated. rejuvenated, had a clarity of ideas and most important of all I was in a contended state of mind. And I thanked god for giving me that contentment which was otherwise so hard to find.

So I thought that apart from the purpose of procreation maybe this is more reason for god to have created sex – to gift us a way to feel contended. Maybe he knew that man would be always restless and would run after material things so he created something which was closer to nature and something that could be achieved easily without destroying the harmony with nature and with god. And this always works like a magic charm for me ..whenever I feel restless I go and take part in an orgy with those wonderful souls and come back with a feeling of contentment. And that is the stage when I can rise above myself and work to achieve greater goals and work for greater good. And that is the stage when my race for petty things stops and my inward journey starts