Polygamory, Swinging, ecstasy and jealousy

I have always been a romantic at heart and I have time and again realized that all those romantic ideas which never seem such a big deal would always remain just that – Romance of the heart. Thus the idea of Polyamory(The desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved) always looks so fascinating to me. What is the problem the heart would ask? Love is an expression of fondness of the heart and just because I love one person does not mean that I can not love any other person with equal intensity. A mother does love all her children and would do everything she can for all of them, a teacher would care equally well for all his pupils etc etc. The heart would try to reason out what logically look like pretty uncomplicated things. But the harsh truth is that we are living in an imperfect world and whatever we might try to believe the imperfection surfaces time and again and shatters all those romantic ideas. The mother always has a favorite child, the teacher always has a favored pupil etc etc and the bottom line is that that living world of ordinary mortals you can never create Utopia. Things like jealously, hatred and treachery would always creep in into any relation and this is also true for any polyamorous relationship. I was reading an article yesterday in which was describing one such polyamorous relationship in which two couples move in together and start doing and sharing everything together. The bonding becomes so strong that the kids also start feeling that they have two set of equally loving parents, But all this does not last for long and Mr A separates with Mrs Y and Mr X separates with Mrs B. And in the end I was not surprised at all that this swap and split happened because by now I fully understand the human nature in which emotions like jealousy always have a strong hold.

But why am I talking about Polyamory? Because one of my friends yesterday remarked that even if you are swinging it should have some element of intimacy as well as emotional bonding. But my point of view is that my bringing in element of emotional intimacy between two couples unnecessary complicates the things and we humans are generally very poor in handling complications that arise in relationships. So we should be only looking for an element of “Sexual Ecstasy” and nothing more than that. Lets not forget that Sexual Ecstasy was the main reason why we got initiated into swinging in the first place so why complicate things when we can keep them simple.

The joy of making love with clothes ON

A couple of days I was invited over to a party to play the role of a host. A bunch of couples were trying swinging for the fist time and the whole idea was to make it more of a fun and frolic event than making it some kind of experiment.. The idea of seeing myself into a new role motivated me and I immediately shot back a mail suggesting that there be a dress code for the party and that everyone should be wearing traditional Indian dresses (Sarees and Kurtas). From my past experiences I know that traditional Indian dresses can be very sensuous in some circumstances :-)

Finally on the day I found myself amongst three most vivacious couples I have come across in the recent months. After an hour of playing some very naughty games I was asked by this lovely lady about when I was intending to announce the start of the real games. Giving her a beaming smile I said that the games had already started. She gave me a confused look so I took this opportunity to make an announcement as a host that the rule for the night was that no one was going to strip off any clothes tonight. No un-buttoning, no unzipping whatever has to be done needs to be done with clothes on. Every one was giving me an amused look so I put them a simple question “Look back and remember what was the most exciting experience you had …It was when you had your first kiss…when you fondled his/her body for the first time … .and come to think of it you had all your clothes on at that time!!!!!” .In telling all this what I was trying to explain was that you don’t have to be all naked to be enjoying those sexual pleasures…its all in the ambiance and most importantly it’s the state of mind. So without wasting any further time I jumped into my role as a host and initiated them into a couple of erotic activities that I had mastered over the years. And within a couple of minutes the scene tuned into an erotic playground with passions soaring so high that I thought that it would be very difficult for everyone to stay clothed but everyone was sporting and all of them managed to stay in their clothes. Seeing everything going according to plan all I needed to do was to judge the right timing when the passion would grow so out of control that it would be on the verge of bursting out. The moment I felt that the time had come I asked each of them to go into the rooms with their “own partners” where they were allowed to take of their clothes. And while I sat down and drank my pepsi I knew that everyone would be having one of the most mind blowing sex they would have ever had with their partners. At the end of it all it was a job WELL DONE :-)