Indian Swingers Club based in Delhi, India -- Going Beyond Wife Swapping

We all sail in the same boat. Who’s up for some same room adventure?

2011-09-21T23:30:00.000-07:00

Its such a simple kink and nearly everyone of use will be having this kink. Making love with our partners with eyes watching us. With the idea appealing to all how could such a simple thing ever skip my mind!!!! So planning to have a party soon(very soon if I may add :-)). As always rules will remain the same but there will be no grope walls, no lick chairs but just plain simple settings where you can make love to your own partners and enjoy seeing others making love. Voyeurism if you may call it but it’s a onetime experience you would definitely want to have (In a safe and controlled environment !!!!!) And as always its always upto the ladies with their sensuality to make the night more electrifying so you are all encourage to carry a sexy night dresses along with you to spice things up!!!! Email me at swingers.india@gmail.com with the subject “We are ready!!!” :-) if you want to be part of this simple but exciting experience

Mirror Mirror on the wall who’s the kinkiest of them all?

2011-03-29T19:57:00.001-07:00

Even as a write this whole nation is engulfed in frenzy of the Indo-Pak cricket match happening today. Many people as me how does it feel to be a part of the parties that I organize and seeing the atmosphere around I can tell you that its exactly the same environment. There is anticipation, excitement, nervousness and most importantly the fear of the unknown. You can tell it when you talk to the couples that they are excited yet nervous about the party. Many are not able to sustain the mixed feeling and just pull out at the last moment (that I personally think is a wise thing to do). But I have to talk to them in length for days to make them comfortable for the event so that no one behaves in a manner that can prove detrimental to the to the bigger objective behind all my parties.
Now moving on to the updates from the party side.:- ) Since this party is going to be centered around the un conventional theme I have decided to make it more kinky by installing mirrors on all the walls. It is going to cost me a fortune but if it can have the desired effect that I hope I will have then all the investment is going to be worth it.

PS: Thanks Mr and Mrs JJ for your generous offer to help me out with dinner. I really appreciate that gesture and hope that you will enjoy the party as much as I enjoy hosting these parties.

Resistance is futile – Learn some new kinky skills in the next party!!!

2011-02-25T04:40:00.000-08:00

“Resistance is futile” - Yes that’s the theme of the next party and its going to be an exploration of your wild side. We all talk about spicing our sex lives by trying out new things so here is your chance to lean new skills that will make your mind explode with ecstasy and you will long for more. And If you thought that things like BDSM were meant for society misfits and geeks then you’re though process is going to change in this party and you are going to back home as a “top” or a “Bottom”. More importantly you are going to go back “loving it”. You will be having experiences that feel so good that you will want to do it day after day till the end of your life!!!!. You will learn new skills like Table Service, rough body play, resistance play. These skills will act as simple building blocks to experience the ultimate form of orgasm – “The orgasm of the Mind”. So make sure that you get an invitation for my party happening in the first week of April. There is going to be something for everyone :-)

There will always be a generation gap and sometime it shows!!!

2011-02-19T19:33:00.000-08:00

Someone once told me what happen in the western swinging scene can never happen in India, And having hosted so many parties I could not have agreed more. But this perception was brutally shattered by a couple of enthusiasts who made a telling statement through their acts of sinful indulgence. I have been holding parties for now nearly 3 years and this was the first time I realized that I have come closer to the mission I set out for myself when I jumped into the swinging scene. I always wanted to be in a crowd that gives their sexuality an expression while the same time caring about the sensibilities of those around them. And my last party saw the fulfillment of my desire and now I can settle in my grave peacefully :-)

New year bash on the 14th of Dec

2010-10-24T11:47:00.000-07:00

Yipeee,,,Its time to hold the final party of the year. Parties have been few and hard to come by but I hope to cover it all with a a big bang in this party. There is no specific theme but since we would be welcoming the new year it seems apt that we indulge in some fancy experiments to start it one a high note. So just shoot me your fantasies and I would make sure that we have events to make your fantasies come true in the party, We already have a few bi-sexual ladies who have shown interest in the playing the game with each other and i hope i dont have to explain which game i am talking about here. The count of the couples has willing to attend the party has already reached 8 and i am targeting 15 couples for this big bash. Hope to see you lovely people out their in the party!!!

Hunt for the Aphrodite is on!!!

2010-05-07T13:07:00.000-07:00

In my last blog post I had announced the party but I did not take into account the most important thing to the success of of the party- "Who would be the Aphrodite?". I know that his would be the most difficult part in making the party happen. So if you know anyone who can play the same please forward their resumes to me at swingers.india@gmail.com and get handsome referral rewards -)

Next level of sexual experimentation and exploration: “The Prisoners of Aphrodite” playing in Delhi on the 3rd of June!!!!

2010-05-04T01:45:00.001-07:00

The next party is going to be held on the 3rd of June and its going to be strictly for the brave and adventurous. It’s what I call the highest level of sexual experimentation where seduction is more a game of mind then actually physical play. It goes much beyond the boundaries of wife swapping and even swinging and it would help you experience something you have never experienced before - The state of “mental orgasm”. So get ready to take part in one of kind role play session and get ready to be dressed in those fancy dresses that would transport you to a different era all together, get ready to be the “Prisoners of Aphodite”!!!!. Since this is going to be a pure role play session so the rules would be a little different for this party and everyone would be expected to participate. So be warned that once you enter the prison cells of the mighty Aphrodite you risk among many other things being subject “lust” of the fellow prisoners whose leash in controlled by “Aphrodite” herself.

It’s a sense of accomplishment and a feeling of relief.

2010-04-17T10:50:00.001-07:00

Yes that’s what I feel every time I hold a party, accomplishment because there is atleast someone in the crowd who appreciates your efforts and relief because there are so many things that can wrong in these parties so when the parties end successfully you just feel relieved.

This one was a one of the smaller parties I have held in recent months. Being a weekday only four couples were able to make it to the party. And the shifting and re-shifting of venues also did not help much and finally the party was held one my friend’s who graciously agreed to take exile from his own flat to help my cause. But even with four couples the groping party had to retain its flavor so I somehow managed construct a grope wall and as always it did generate some curiosity amongst the couples. The couples also played strip roulette which was won by the ever so sporting “Jigyasu Billa and Jigyasu Billi (Curisous cat and curious…) . It was a night which would have doused some flames and ignited many others but I belive that at the end everyone had something to take home with them :-)

Groping party returns to Delhi on the 12th of April

2010-03-03T12:33:00.000-08:00

For all those who were complaining that I have lost my love for Delhi and am busy holding parties outside well here is my way of showing my love for Delhi. The groping parties are back and would be holding one on 12th of April. This one is going to have the biggest gathering till date. I plan to be a little ambitious and invite 15 couples this time. This is going to be bigger and better than ever before. And as always this would be one of the safest parties you would ever attend. The USP of these parties as always would be that there would be no pressure on anyone to indulge and you can just sit and watch the activities. These are generally "no intercourse" parties and as the name suggests the activities are mostly limited to groping and other milder forms of fantasies which are perfect for those looking to experiment. So if you want to be part of this amazing sexual fantasy email me at swingers.india@gmail.com

Life without a Horn and Horniness

2010-02-28T10:42:00.000-08:00

Months back I took upon a software assignment to help out someone with something that I thought was very insignificant. But now it seems that jumped into a bottom less pit which keeps me sucking further in everyday. It was around the same time that the horn of my car broke down and now nearly 14 months have passed and thanks to the demanding schedule of the project the horn is still broken. Apart from the horn the other major causality of the hectic scheduled was my “horniness”. It has totally disappeared and now and these days I don’t get all those funny ideas (I used to call them creative). But what good has life been without a horn and horniness? Living without a horn certainly has taught me one virtue in life that otherwise is very hard to imbibe – “Patience”. Ever since my horn has broken down I have learnt to become more patient. Just think of it, when are waiting on a red-light and the light becomes green what is your first instinct ---- you blow the horn :-) but now I cant even blow a horn even if I am stuck in a traffic jam I just wait for my turn to come patiently. Even if a cow comes in your way you have to stop and wait for it to pass patiently and if it decides not to budge then you have to wait even more from someone to come from behind and honk away the cow!!!!!

But I can claim any such virtues being built out of living a hermit’s life. Its very funny but and those reading this right now may find it an absurd and silly reasoning but I fee that living in horniness helps you build a strong character :-) Imagine you have a “sweet tooth” and then all of a sudden the doctor diagnoses you as a diabetic and at the same time you find yourself face to face with you favorite chocolate and its that that time when you are able to fight the temptation to give that you show strength of character.....I wont explain the analogy any further and hope that you would have got the message.

Second life is calling.. Are you in?

2010-02-13T12:16:00.000-08:00

One of the things I want to start once again are the parties in second life. Personally I prefer them more than the real life parties as they are more safe and they are one place where sexuality is more of a mind game than anything else. Also because of the logistics involved in real life parties these can not happen every weekend but with second life I have the freedom of holding them every weekend or whenever we have enough participants. The thing I like the best about second life is that you can give your sexuality wings and let it fly wherever it wants. It encourages one to role play a lot and role playing is something that is missing amongst most Indian couples. The rules for the parties would remain the same as they are in real life and that means only couples would be allowed and that in effect means that that you need to have a two computer to gain access the party!!! But I assure you it would be worth the investment you make and the experience is so earth shattering that you would be hooked on to it for life :-) And yes for those who don't feel at home with technology and playing second life we would have a specialized support staff that would help you out with your avatars, your clothings and other things that make second life exciting. So if you are eager to join the second life club write to me at swingers.india@gmail.com with the subject "Second Life" and I would start your initiation process.

Forty - time to be naughty. Next party to be held in Chikmagalur

2010-01-28T11:29:00.000-08:00

Indian Swingers parties would be heading southwards in the coming months. After restricting parties for long to north I have now decided to finally hold parties in south too. I did not want to expand too much in the start because I wanted to learn the complexities that might arise in holding such kind of parties. Now after all these parties I feel a lot more comfortable in terms of people management and in terms of effectiveness of various games that we hold in our parties. So this time Chikmanglur would be our party venue and I would target to have around 15 couples this time!!! And yes this party would be only for those who are around 40(or look so like I do :-)). So if you think you still have that adventurous gene alive in you then write to me at swingers.india@gmail.com to get an invitation to our chikmanglur blast.

Any Cuckolding fantasies shaping out there … I am waiting for an invitation!!!

2010-01-26T22:45:00.000-08:00

The last party at Kasauli was fun and after the party ended I could but only sigh that I wish I was there as a participant. Never once in any of the parties I have held before the thought had come to my mind but this was little different, maybe it was the weather, or the boisterous 30 something crowd, or maybe the horny hormones in me are upto their naughty games once more. I don’t think I would be ever be able to take part in any of the activities of the party as there are lots of responsibilities I have to handle but I can certainly do with an invitation from a cuckold who can fuel my breast kneading fantasies. So if you are one of the adventurous couple who are interested in role playing their fantasies out then I am the one who is eagerly waiting for an invitation from your side!!!

PS: Email me at swingers.india@gmail.com

Now accepting dinner invitations from Delhi swingers !!!

2009-12-12T11:40:00.001-08:00

I get a lot of emails from couples who are eager to participate in my parties but of late I was not able to reply to them actively. Now that I am back on the party circuit once more I try to reply to the emails as soon as I can. Some would say that how much time does it take to send a canned email but for someone who is as lazy as me that also is a herculean task :-) Usually the next step after email exchange is a meeting at some public place and now I have nearly exhausted all the public places in delhi that I found out to be safe. So now am looking for accepting dinner invitations from everyone and anyone who cares to be a part of the club. You don’t have to invite me at your home as I can understand your concerns but yes any other place would do(even a the roadside dhaba would do :-) ). There is something about dinners that makes the whole experience much more personalized and it’s an age old proven fact that you connect the best via your tummy. So just email me with an invitation and take the first step to joining our swingers family. You don’t have to be a perfect host but the only thing that you might want to take note is that I don’t drink and I am a vegetarian :-)

Confessions of a Fuck Buddy

2009-12-07T01:40:00.000-08:00

Having found some time out for trying out various crazy things these days I am on dating spree. So this weekend was date number 4 for me and I somehow persuaded my charming date to go on a long drive with me. I had to take the test of sanity before she agreed but somehow I managed to pass the test with flying colors. All was going well till the moment she boarded my car and she ordered me to turn on the music and before I could even give an explanation she was screaming at me: “How do you suppose we are going to spend these 8 hours without a music system”. “By talking” I replied and there began our journey of non stop conversations, some silly, some outrageous and some tantalizingly naughty. Once in a while I kept on popping her questions that not everyone is comfortable about answering but she kept on answering them all as if I was asking her something elementary which was common knowledge. The ease and the honesty with which she was answering my queries made me respect her even more and her sexiness started growing even more and more. There were many arguments but in the end there is one thing that she made me learn and I would like to carry these lessons with the rest of my life with me. “When it comes to sexuality don’t believe every word of what a woman says. Not many women would answer the question in affirmative like me when you ask her bluntly the question whether she masturbates or not”. I realized that she was one the very few (I can count them on my finger tips) who had answered this question in affirmative and that had led me to make some assumption that were clearly misplaced from reality. And in the end I am so charmed by her honesty that I want to go with her on a long drive once again.

I know you are reading this so I would ask you once again. Would you go out with me and once again create some fond memories?. There won’t be any music this time too but I promise that I would get that horn repaired!!!

Wife swapping parties in Delhi

2009-11-29T11:30:00.000-08:00

“Do you know of any club that is into wife swapping in Delhi?” This is the first question that most people ask when they come to know that I don’t do wife swapping parties. Come on Delhi get over it, it makes it sound so ridiculous, like a desperate attempt to have sex that the Delhities would even treat their wives like objects and swap then like tradable goods. Please don’t approach me if you want to end up asking this question. Please take some time out and read my blog so that you know what my parties are about and what the whole idea is. It upsets me when I have to answer the same question and again and countless times, I would once again emphasize that our parties are not wife swapping parties and nor can I refer you to any such club that engages in wife swapping parties. So only approach me if you feel that you and your partners have independent sexualities and both are open to exploring it independently with no conditions attached. And yes there is one question that I would gladly entertain “Do you hold husband swapping parties” :-)

Its party time once again and this time its going to be GOA

2009-11-26T11:24:00.001-08:00

Goa is one place where I had always wanted to host one of our parties and I am going to end my hibernation with a party in Goa this New Year. I have some fond memories the trip I made goa and I am convinced that if there is any place that is worth travelling miles to hold a party then Goa definitely is that place. So this time it would be goa and it would be grandiose to match the exuberance that is in the air of goa. There would be games, games and more games along with the dances, dances and more dances. So either you play whole night or you dance whole night there would be no third option. (Sorry you can’t drink all night as there would be no booze). One of the attractions of the party would be a new game called “Wheel of Foreplay” where you “take away some handsome prices or receive a naughty punishment!!”. The customary grope walls and the chairs would still be there but I am sure that the wheel of foreplay would leave your head spinning for long. The party would be open to only 12 couples so make sure you book your place for this at the earliest. And this should be the most compelling reason for you to fly to goa - “Its new year man, what you do on the first day , you can hope of doing the same thing through out the year….”

PS: Please note that this is not a Wife Swapping club but a genuine travel club which holds parties at exotic locations in India and abroad. Pleas make sure thart you have read the rules at http://indianswingers.blogspot.com/2008/03/rules-for-our-swingers-club.html before you contact me

Alternate Nirvana: An exclusive travel club for the discerning couples!!!!

2009-11-26T11:03:00.000-08:00

Today I am going to end my exile and get back into what I do best. - Playing host to naughty parties :-) I am also delighted to have finally laid the foundations of a premier travel club exclusively for couples who want to mix travel with a bit of exploration of their wilder side. You can visit the site at www.alternatenirvana.com . It’s a humble start but there is no dearth of ambition and I aspire that every trip that you people make creates memories for you that would last for the lifetime and those that you would yearn to relive again. For me sex is like any other work of art whose beauty lies in the hands of the artist giving it an expression. And when this expression reaches the heights of ecstasy you reach a state of absolute bliss – nirvana. Its not difficult all you need to do is to loose your inhibitions and just have that willingness to explore. :-) So just take the first step and contact me at swingers.india@gmail.com and you can be sure that by doing so you have opened the doors to a world of sensual possibilities !!!!

PS: Please note that this is not a Wife Swapping club but a genuine travel club which holds parties at exotic locations in India and abroad. Pleas make sure thart you have read the rules at http://indianswingers.blogspot.com/2008/03/rules-for-our-swingers-club.html before you contact me.

No group sex please, We are Indians

2009-06-19T12:46:00.000-07:00

I was feeling pretty bored today so just thought of digging into history of group sex. While I came across many interesting facts but what intrigued me the most were the pictures from years gone by on group sex.

Kamasutra somewhere between 1AD to 6AD

Peter Fendi, 1835

Édouard-Henri Avril -1910

Does something hit you too as it hit me :-)?

They came. They conquered. They were the Real Swingers

2009-04-18T11:33:00.000-07:00

They came from nowhere. They were under no obligation. They had noting to gain. All reason and logic was strongly pitted against what they were going to do. They could have turned back anytime. They had at least 100 reasons to so. But still they went ahead and gave me a birthday present that I would cherish for the rest of my life. At a time when I did not even get many emails wishing me on my birthday they went out of their way to fulfill my birthday wish. Over the years I have seen enough naked bodies and enjoyed enough carnal pleasures but the experience I had in their company was truly inspiring and uplifting one. It reaffirmed my belief that more than anything else genuine swingers are progressive thinkers and have a big big heart. If you two are reading this then I would like you two know that It was truly a privilege to be in company of people as wonderful as you two. You have motivated me to pursue my dream of opening a professionally run swingers club with even more zeal and passion and with support of lovely people like you I am sure I am going to get there very soon.

Thank you once again for making my birthday so special!!!

What is sexual liberation anyways…..?

2009-04-06T12:25:00.000-07:00

Well involving in a gangbang orgy is certainly not my idea of sexual liberation. !!! For me respecting each others sexual belief without forming an opinion about the person is sexual liberation. Accepting that your brother can be gay, that your wife can go and have sex with someone in her moments of desire, respecting the fact that your girlfriend hates the idea of having sex with someone she does not love, that there is more to life than wasting it by judging people based on their sexual behavior is what I would term as sexual liberation. We really have to stop at looking things through “sex tinted” glasses to really be liberated

“Dog gets horny…. Dog not alert…. dog ends up under the car….”

2009-04-03T05:18:00.000-07:00

This was something that a lovely couple remarked when I was talking heart to heart to them. At that point of time I was in splits of laughter but later I realized that there is a story to be leant in those innocuous remarks. Most of us Indian Swingers would loose our sense of right or wrong when are at a stage when we just want to do it. We would blow all the caution to the wind and would just want to get on with it. And how can you even think of stopping someone who is right now peaking…:-) But just think of it like this way…just fast forward the whole thing to a time when you would have done it all and would be sitting with hearts content then at that moment would you also think of being so reckless all over again?

Anyways that was just a passing thought but I would like to share with you something that I am going to start in the coming days. I would be trying to bring to you all the ancient ways of love making… be it Indian or Egyptian :-) and maybe some techniques would be just good enough to add more spice to your life )

10,000 and going strong………………..

2009-03-14T11:04:00.000-07:00

F5, F5 and F5 once again. This was the key I was pressing the whole day today and finally just a minute back I finally reached a milestone that I was so impatiently waiting for – the 10,000 inquiry mail in my mail box :-). I had set it as some sort of personal milestones for me and seeing the mail count reach 995 I was anxiously keeping an eye on my gmail account. I could today feel the agony of a batsman stuck in the nervous nineties, and I can now tell you that it’s really painful to be left waiting like this. But anyway now that I have interacted through so many people and organized a couple of very successful parties I would like to present my view of the current state of sexuality in India. There are many other revelations also that come out strikingly from the mails I receive I would like to stick here to the topic that we all love to talk about!!!!!

· Lack of Respect of women: This is the most thing that comes out from most of the mails. Anyone who would go through my blog would realize that what I run is not a wife swapping club but an avenue where like mined people meet and indulge in sexual explorations. It is not a “You do my wife and I would do yours”. All activities happen in the same room and it is very much possible with women making their own choices irrespective of what their spouses do. Both can make their choices independently of each other. But still 90% of mails I get are about wife swapping, wife sharing where the language used even shows that how men treat their wives to get something that is otherwise elusive to them. When I tell my concept to people the first question that they ask me is:

“If my wife is going with someone then what happened if his wife refuses to go along with me” This is the most asked question and this put in cruder way is :”I would allow you to fuck my wife if you allow me to fuck yours”. I take pains to make them understand that well this is all about everyone doing what they enjoy so if your wife is enjoying with someone or a group then well let her do it and you can sit and have a glass of juice :-) (Remember no drinks allowed)

· Swinging is not yet an alternate lifestyle and we are not yet a sexually liberated society: Someone who can read between the lines and who can deduce inference would be able to make out that most people in India would indulge in swinging not because they enjoy this lifestyle but because this is the most easy and accessible way to get sex. I am not denying the fact that genuine swinger’s exist in India too but the percentage is very miniscule as compared to those who are using their wives to get easy sex. You would agree with me that for a average person hunting for sex is still a difficult task in the Indian society so people tend to take an alternate route. A decent professional escort can go upto 25K per night and not all can afford that , so the other option is exercised that is of using your wife. To stress this point I would like to bring out a figure that as much as 70% of email I get are 2 liners and those two liners are also in badly written English. The mails would go like :

“we have a couple from delhi iam 38 and33 we have intrested in sweeping please mail me what is the prosiger and wheare are meating plase email id is “
One more point that I would put to support my argument here is that out of the I have got only 3 mails which say that they enjoy MMF threesomes rest everyone was looking for FMF.

Bisexuality….What would that be?
Of all the parties I have organized so far I have seen bisexual action happening in only 2 of them. We are more orthodox when it comes to sexual expression. Though I truly respect everyone sexual choices but I am making this point just to emphasize the fact that we might not necessarily ape the sexuality of the west and we can have our own sexual behaviors and peculiarities.

Lack of Sex Education: The only disease that couples know exist is AIDS and most would not know that there are many equally dangerous STD’s that can spread even if you are doing oral sex. And you would not even believe it that many men even put their preferences that they don’t like to wear condoms!!!!!

These were some of my observations that I wanted to share with the readers of my blog but that does not mean that you would never find genuine swingers if you set out to fine one. Our parties is all about having fun and all the couples have to go through a very strict scanning procedure to get an invitation to the swingers party. Only those who have the right attitude to enjoy responsibly are invited and one of the main considerations is that they should believe in the freedom of sexual expression of their partners. So our parties are full of fun and frolic where lots of animated activities take place. Women volunteer to take part in games of a different dimension and men cheer them on. And that’s the fun part when everyone can enjoy like there is one big party going on……………….

And the two wishes for my birthday are…….

2009-03-03T05:33:00.001-08:00

There are many kinds of sexual kinks people have. While in the west because of sociological reasons you would get many type of fetish/kinks(we cannot even imagine in India that there would be so many people of would love to get inflicted with pain and humiliation) you would not have many people with fancy kinks and fetishes in India. How many of us who don’t frequent the net often would understand the meaning of terms like cuckold, Dom, Sub..? I can bet very few. But any ways I would lay down the two kinks that are on the top of my list - To spend couple of hours with a truly submissive woman and to play the voyeur guy. The realization of first kink is impossible here so that leaves the possibility of second kink wide open. There must be some couples(even of they are gay or lesbians) out there who would have had the crazy kink of getting watched by a stranger? So if you happen to read this article and you also accidentally happen to have any of the two kinks then I am waiting for an invitation from your side!!!!! Mail me at swingers.india@gmail.com and with my birthday falling this month I can take it as a birthday gift….and yes I would also happily take belated birthday wishes ;-0

If you look back in your life what do you remember………………..?

2009-03-03T04:52:00.000-08:00

Recently I was asking this question to each and everyone I bumped into. If you look back in your life what are the happiest moments you remember if you look back in your life. For some it was their first bicycle ride, for some it was their first date when they first held hand, that romantic dinner, that holiday with friends, college farewell, their house warming parties, the first word that their kid spoke……..the list goes on. But helloooo wait wait wait don’t we see something missing in the list.? No one mentioned about – that awesome sex they had the other night!!!!!! And this brings me to the point that I am trying to make that just as you would not fondly remember that lovely cake you at the other day, in a similar way you would not fondly cherish sex when you look back and try to reminisce on the best moments of your life.

So can sex be divine?

Well if something is divine then that feeling lingers with you and it shows in everything you do. Just like love. When you feel loved you bask and it shows in everything you do in life. You would remember fondly the girl you loved as childhood sweetheart, you would remember how lovingly you made pancakes for your boyfriend…and after all these years even at the cost of feeling stupid at this mature age you would still lovingly let those thoughts come back to you and fill you with those emotions…… . But the same is most of times not true for sex. You just have a good experience (or a bad one :-) and you just forget!!!! So again this brings to me my final question that why we give sex so much importance when it plays such an insignificant role in our larger lives. Why do we make so many rules around it? Why do we judge people based on their sexual preferences? Why do we call someone of loose character when someone ends up doing sex with multiple partners..?

Wet T-Shirt contest at the Indian Swingers

2009-01-10T16:56:00.000-08:00

Its been quite some time since we had out last party and its time to plan a new one. Yeah we are back and how so :-) We would be holding a wet thirt contest this time for all those lovely women who dare to bare and all those hubbies who feel proud of their women. So all you lovely people out there jump on the bandwagon and make it a night to remember. I know it would be a little cold for the wet tshirt contest but as an incentive to every one with a sporting spirit we are going to give membership of upcoming exclusive new travel club totally free. And considering that the travel club membership is USD 999 this to me looks like a good enough incentive :-) So what are you waiting for ? Just shoot in a mail to me at swingers.india@gmail.com with the subject "Wet T-Shirt Contest" and be prepared to be part of the most adventurous and fun filled parties in the town

PS: This party is striclty for women who would not mind getting wet. So please make sure you want to abide this rule before you enter.

It’s a small world and I know it……

2008-12-13T13:11:00.000-08:00

Well certainly it’s a very small world when it comes to the swinging community. Yesterday I got a mail addressed to me as “Dear GPL” and was pleasantly surprised to see someone address me by this name as these brought back memories of my party days. Seeing the word “GPL” I immediately knew that who all they could have been. It was not someone from India as during the parties here I am the organizer and never take part in any action. But in my UK clubbing days I was the “Great Pussy Licker” there :-) (yours truly was very popular among the mature ladies ) so it had to be one of the couple from the place where I was in the hall of fame. And considering the fact that I never mentioned anything about that in my blog and there is not any personal description about me on the blog….someone coming and addressing me as GPL and getting it right was nothing short of a miracle!!!! . Just goes on to show that’s it’s really a small world that has been made even much smaller then the advent of the internet

Finally its curtains for Indian Swingers this year…….

2008-12-07T10:56:00.000-08:00

The last party of the year happened yesterday. And what a night it turned out to be. The sets were one of the most elaborate that we ever had in our parties (thanks to andy and riya for it. You are fabulous). For once the grope wall did not fall and the lick chairs had full occupancy :-) . And for once I had a sense of achievement and satisfaction after a long time. When I started to work on this concept I had very little belief that people would be open to this concept in India as typically wife swapping is the kind of activity people engage in. But now I feel that there is a refreshing change in our sexuality and we as a society are more open in expression of our sexuality…….. There were two couples whom I really missed having as guests in this party. They had so patiently waited for this party but it just took a little long than I expected so they were not able to make it for this party. One of them has left for china to purse their professional careers and I wish them luck on behalf of each of us at the Indian swingers……….. Now its finally over and I say goodbye to all those lovely people who made each of the parties memorable but I leave you all with a promise that we would be back next year with a better and much improved version of the Indian Swingers.!!!!!!

Don’t miss the final swingers party of the year!!!!

2008-09-11T08:37:00.000-07:00

My professional engagements have been keeping me very busy of late. And as things stand I don’t see it getting any better in the near future. Honestly I feel a guilty when those lovely couples who have put so much of trust and faith in me are expecting the parties to happen and I just have to ask them to wait. It’s not fair on them so I have decided to hold one last party for the year and take a little break and come back next year. Since this is the last party I would try my best to make it a memorable one for all of us. A couple of European swingers have also shown interest so this one is going to be an interracial swinger’s party!!! So be sure to book your slots now (only two slots left) at one of the safest and discreet swinging parties in Delhi. Inspired by the Olympics this party would also feature some of the wildest and entertaining sex games that we would call the sex Olympics!!! So what are you lovely people waiting for? Mail me now at swingers.india.gmail.com and I personally promise you the best time you would have ever had for a long time. :-)

PS: In this party every one would be tagged by the names they feel reflect their sexual mood during the party. So if you decided that you are in a slutty mood then you can very well ask for the tag of “Slutty Anita”!!!

Its always Safety first at Indian Swingers

2008-08-12T11:08:00.000-07:00

I am very passionate about sex but at the same time the safety of our members is always my highest priority. If any point of time I feel that the safety (including both health and social) of any of the couples is at stake I would not think twice before closing down the club activities. For me personally swinging is an alternate lifestyle but I would never like to risk anyone’s honor to promote this lifestyle. It’s simply not worth it. I have always tried to make the arrangements fool proof so that everyone can enjoy freely. As a part of these arrangements I have now decided that all our parties that would be held from now on would have Spy Cam Jammers. Although the risk is not very real but I still don’t want to take any chances. I have started the hunt for some good Spy Cam Jammers and would request all lovely swingers out there to help me in this search as my knowledge on these devices is very limited. If you have any suggestion you can mail me at swingers.india@gmail.com

Indian Swingers make their debut at Second Life!!!!

2008-07-28T11:41:00.000-07:00

Saturday night for me personally was one of the most exciting and satisfying things to have happened for long. Our swingers club went hi-tech and we had our first virtual world party in Second Life. Though it was done in a rented Sim but it was still great fun. Some of the swingers from Norway joined in and the DJ Samantha was playing some excellent Punjabi music. Now I am very keen to rent a full time club in Second Life as it can provide all the excitement of swinging minus the risks that are generally attached with it. Those who know how to play Second Life well would tell you that most of the time the experience would even beat the real life experience (ask me :-)). The best thing about it is that you can choose the jazziest and sexiest avatar and take part in orgies that you never even saw in movies and still remain totally disease free!!!!. This is after all what every Indian Swinger looks forward too- Confidentiality, Secrecy, Safety and Fun and this is something you can get easily in Second Life.

Warning: Second life can be very addictive.

Another night of swinging fun in Delhi

2008-07-10T21:50:00.000-07:00

Last Saturday we conducted our fourth swinger’s party and it has was fun and there were a few takeaways from it.

Indian Men Can Swing: I have a friend in Neitherlands who runs a swingers club over there and whenever I ask her about how the Indian fare in the parties she alays says with the straight face “Indian Men can’t swing.” and changes the topic of conversation immediately. Mrs Juno I know you are wrong. Indian Men Can Swing!!!!!

Indian Women are more aware: There was one little game which we played in which everyone was expected to remember the color of the underwear they were wearing. Nearly all men did not remember the color and almost all the women were bang on with the color.

Lots of effort goes into organizing one swingers party. To organize one party of 5 couples I attend lots of willing participants, sometimes they don’t even turn up and my effort goes waste. Then I have to be a one man army to manage everything because when in society like India lots is at stake when you engage yourself in swinging But when I get a mail like this I know that all the effort was worth it.

“Dear Don,

We would thank you for being a wonderful host. We had lots of apprehensions before the party but now we know we are in safe hands. I know it won’t be easy to accommodate the request but we would like to attend the next party too. We feel freshness in our relationship and it seems that we have again started living those wonderful years and now we feel free and liberated.

Looking to participate once more.

Luv

,,,,,,,,

Greedy girls parties in Delhi

2008-07-10T10:37:00.000-07:00

Some of the lovely ladies told me that Indian women are now a liberated lot and we should now be holding greedy girls parties too. So here I am announcing the greedy girls parties where girls would be in majority and they would drive the action. All the adventurous ladies who can be wilder than our wildest fantasies are invited………..

As always the rules of the party remain the same and can be found at:

http://indianswingers.blogspot.com/2008/03/rules-for-our-swingers-club.html

Is God a Swinger?

2008-06-21T18:10:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I found myself stuck in a traffic jam and in a couple of minutes I was wishing upon the stars to give me wings so that I can fly though the traffic jam. I was getting late for the swingers party I had to organize and because of my busy schedule this week I hardly found any time to plan and prepare anything in advance. I had promised a few new activities I needed to be at the venue in time to make sure everything goes smoothly. While trying hard to hold my nerves in the traffic jam I found this gentleman on my right honking wildly at me and the desperation on his face told me that something was wrong. Had I hit his car unknowingly and caused a damage which was irreparable? Then I saw him pointing his fingers and my heart sank because it was much worse than what I feared, I had a flat wheel!!! I could hear people honking at me left, right north and south. I was already getting such nasty looks from my fellow earthlings as if I had committed a triple murder and was standing with the weapon of murder in my hand at the crime scene. Thankfully, I had renewed my cross roads subscription a couple of days back so at least I knew I help would be only a call away(that subscription for once looked like the best investment I had done in the whole year). And as I waited for help I was forced to do the thanks less job of a traffic cop(that too an untrained one) who every passer by was abusing as if taking part in a free for all competition. I did not even dare to ask for help from anyone because I could not afford anyone peeping inside my car because with all those apparatus lying in the car they would have certainly thought I was some sex maniac on the loose..........................

Fast forward my saga to 35 minutes and I found myself as among a lovely group of people. I was greeted with such enthusiasm that my ego immediately took an instant boost. I narrated them my harrowing experience and the concern and affection that I was shown was almost unbelievable. Under normal circumstances I would not surprised as I know from experience that genuine swingers are an emotionally educated community but after having such a bad time the place where I found myself was looking divine. Everybody was so polite so courteous and chivalry that sounds like a Victorian word these days was seen every where. The hugs were just as warm as the hellos and the smiles were so infectious that I felt like I had finally come home. From a state of utter chaos and confusion where I was screaming inside me “dilli to pagal hai” to a state which had such a calming affect on me that the quick transformation almost looked magical. It left me asking the question” Is this what Utopia would be like?”. Within a couple of minutes with some helping hands I hands I had set everything up and seeing the cheerful lot I knew that the party had already started. And as I sit here and think about what all happened last night I wonder “Is god a swinger?”

Groping parties for first time swingers

2008-06-14T22:34:00.001-07:00

I get many mails daily from couples and single ladies asking me about the best way to get initiated to this whole concept of swinging. All of them have the same concerns and the most common being whether they would like it at all!!! So for all such newbie’s we have decided to hold Groping Parties. As the name suggests these would be limited to groping and voyeur. There would be play areas meant specifically for groping and exploring (areas for both men and women) and also there would be rules associated with each play area which we expect everyone to obey. If you are outside the play areas then you can just sit relax and indulge into voyeurism and without any pressure to participate.

So if swinging was always your fantasy now is the time for you to experiment and see the reality is as good as the fantasy!!!!! Rather than jumping straight into it you can just let the atmosphere rub over you so that when you jump into it, it’s a memorable and enjoyable experience for you.

Those interested can mail me at swingers.india@gmail.com. Please make sure you are ready to meet me personally for a “screening step" which is important to ensure that only particular kind of people are part of our universe.

Note: The gathering would be held for 5-10 couples/single women. The strength would under no circumstance go beyond this number. The party is specifically meant for those who don’t have any experience in swinging.

What's love got to do with it?

2008-06-12T00:31:00.000-07:00

Most of us may not accept this fact but most of the times we are performing the act of sex just as a pure form of deriving pleasure. Most of us would willingly go that extra mile to make that feeling of ecstasy that comes with orgasm last long. So until and unless you are consciously practicing tantra (tantra is a mystical experience born out of the union between man and woman. It is an opportunity to open to energy rising up through your body and to experience merging with the Divine) most of our sexual encounters are just another activity of seeking material pleasures. No matter how long I go about justifying it but within my heart I know that I can not associate the feeling of bliss of being love with the joys of sex. If you look at it the reasoning is very simple – Most of us get aroused on seeing erotic scenes but there in no element of love involved here, Most of us would masturbate for feeling that orgasmic pleasure and certainly there is no element of love or emotions involved in it. So most of the times the experience is not necessarily related to love so I should not be making such a big fuss about it when my girl friend goes and has sex with some other guy. Just because she had sex with someone does not mean that she loves me less ………..

Polygamory, Swinging, ecstasy and jealousy

2008-06-09T12:24:00.000-07:00

I have always been a romantic at heart and I have time and again realized that all those romantic ideas which never seem such a big deal would always remain just that – Romance of the heart. Thus the idea of Polyamory(The desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved) always looks so fascinating to me. What is the problem the heart would ask? Love is an expression of fondness of the heart and just because I love one person does not mean that I can not love any other person with equal intensity. A mother does love all her children and would do everything she can for all of them, a teacher would care equally well for all his pupils etc etc. The heart would try to reason out what logically look like pretty uncomplicated things. But the harsh truth is that we are living in an imperfect world and whatever we might try to believe the imperfection surfaces time and again and shatters all those romantic ideas. The mother always has a favorite child, the teacher always has a favored pupil etc etc and the bottom line is that that living world of ordinary mortals you can never create Utopia. Things like jealously, hatred and treachery would always creep in into any relation and this is also true for any polyamorous relationship. I was reading an article yesterday in which was describing one such polyamorous relationship in which two couples move in together and start doing and sharing everything together. The bonding becomes so strong that the kids also start feeling that they have two set of equally loving parents, But all this does not last for long and Mr A separates with Mrs Y and Mr X separates with Mrs B. And in the end I was not surprised at all that this swap and split happened because by now I fully understand the human nature in which emotions like jealousy always have a strong hold.

But why am I talking about Polyamory? Because one of my friends yesterday remarked that even if you are swinging it should have some element of intimacy as well as emotional bonding. But my point of view is that my bringing in element of emotional intimacy between two couples unnecessary complicates the things and we humans are generally very poor in handling complications that arise in relationships. So we should be only looking for an element of “Sexual Ecstasy” and nothing more than that. Lets not forget that Sexual Ecstasy was the main reason why we got initiated into swinging in the first place so why complicate things when we can keep them simple.

The joy of making love with clothes ON

2008-06-06T12:46:00.000-07:00

A couple of days I was invited over to a party to play the role of a host. A bunch of couples were trying swinging for the fist time and the whole idea was to make it more of a fun and frolic event than making it some kind of experiment.. The idea of seeing myself into a new role motivated me and I immediately shot back a mail suggesting that there be a dress code for the party and that everyone should be wearing traditional Indian dresses (Sarees and Kurtas). From my past experiences I know that traditional Indian dresses can be very sensuous in some circumstances :-)

Finally on the day I found myself amongst three most vivacious couples I have come across in the recent months. After an hour of playing some very naughty games I was asked by this lovely lady about when I was intending to announce the start of the real games. Giving her a beaming smile I said that the games had already started. She gave me a confused look so I took this opportunity to make an announcement as a host that the rule for the night was that no one was going to strip off any clothes tonight. No un-buttoning, no unzipping whatever has to be done needs to be done with clothes on. Every one was giving me an amused look so I put them a simple question “Look back and remember what was the most exciting experience you had …It was when you had your first kiss…when you fondled his/her body for the first time … .and come to think of it you had all your clothes on at that time!!!!!” .In telling all this what I was trying to explain was that you don’t have to be all naked to be enjoying those sexual pleasures…its all in the ambiance and most importantly it’s the state of mind. So without wasting any further time I jumped into my role as a host and initiated them into a couple of erotic activities that I had mastered over the years. And within a couple of minutes the scene tuned into an erotic playground with passions soaring so high that I thought that it would be very difficult for everyone to stay clothed but everyone was sporting and all of them managed to stay in their clothes. Seeing everything going according to plan all I needed to do was to judge the right timing when the passion would grow so out of control that it would be on the verge of bursting out. The moment I felt that the time had come I asked each of them to go into the rooms with their “own partners” where they were allowed to take of their clothes. And while I sat down and drank my pepsi I knew that everyone would be having one of the most mind blowing sex they would have ever had with their partners. At the end of it all it was a job WELL DONE :-)

SDC Swingers Date Club

2008-06-05T08:30:00.000-07:00

Let me introduce myself, I am Andy and I run the marketing operations for SDC Media Inc. the company that operates SDC.COM (Swingers Date Club). As a brief history of the company, SDC has been operating for around 8 years and has continued to grow throughout this time. Now presented in 6 languages with over 2 million active members worldwide and thousands of online members chatting at all times.

This growth can be partly contributed to an increasing acceptance of the "Lifestyle" in all cultures. As all societies continue to evolve, social freedom continues to grow in all aspects; people have the freedom to try new things with laws and oppressions around the globe slowly following this trend. However social evolution is a slow process, mainly running generation to generation, the perfect example of this is; homosexuality is now widely accepted and embraced as a lifestyle choice. This of course has taken place over many generations and I am sure "Swinging/The Lifestyle" will continue along a similar path.

So yes, you are allowed to have sex with other people even though you're married! Well only if your partner consents to this action. I'm referring to Monday, May 12, 2008 - Wife Swapping - The start of the end of a relationship. Now to start, this blog is fair and raises many thought provoking aspects and backs them up with no doubt proven statistic's. Just to add a few of my own points from views within the lifestyle. Men are generally the sexual predator and instigator into the lifestyle, even sometimes through badgering and pressuring their partner. Now this relationship is obviously doomed from the start due to a lack of respect and in typical fashion would probably end due to an affair.

Most relationships end due to infidelatily, so allowing sexual relations from within the marriage is obviously an argument for the continued existence of a marriage/partnership rather than becoming another increasing statistic!

As I stated earlier, men are generally the instigator into the lifestyle, this can very often change once their "Lady" starts receiving lots of attention and begin to flourish within the lifestyle. For this reason the decision to indulge in the lifestyle has to be a joint and committed decision from both parties. Referring to the fore mentioned article, a mutual and mature attitude is required and you need to be mentally prepared.

With that said with deep and meaningful content, people swing to have FUN! The lifestyle is respectful and no means no. With clubs, parties, meet & greets etc "Neebies" are welcomed into the lifestyle in a non pressure way with many moving on from watching to soft swap and the core of swinging full swap at parties and clubs. It really is a lifestyle choice to take at your own pace and comfort level, as with all aspects of life, it is a confidence thing which grows over time with increased experience and good memories.

There are so many points to raise; bi-sexual women are "king" in the lifestyle. The opportunity to fulfill sexual fantasies, belonging to and being part of something special etc etc

At SDC we've seen the lifestyle progress and we have tailored our service to create a site which is attractive, user friendly and satisfying to the end user.

Thank you for taking the time to read my article, if you are curious about the lifestyle sdc offers a free trial. sdc.com

Andy

The dictionary of swinging a.k.a the common terms that swingers use

2008-05-31T06:38:00.000-07:00

Here is a list of most common terms used in the swinger’s communities. Do let me know if you come across any other terms might be added:

Soft Swinging: In this form lots of couples/swingers are having sex in the same room but strictly with their own partners.
Exhibitionism: Exhibitionism involves couples having sex while being watched by their partners. These are always the fantasies of every couple before the venture into swinging.
Soft swap: Couples doing a soft swap usually just kiss, touch, watch, and perform oral sex. They indulge in sexual intercourse. This is generally encouraged fro couples who are new and are still exploring. Personally I feel that soft swap can be most satisfying and enjoyable if you know the art of erotica well. Sometimes even for experienced swingers soft swap provide a more enjoyable experience then full fledged intercourse.
Full swap: Full swap involves couples switching partners and then having sexual intercourse.
Group sex. Group sex is about couples having sex with more than one couple. This according to me is swinging in its purest form. This is where you rise above everything else (race, color, looks, age) and just enjoy joys of sex and feel the ecstasy that can be only matched by divine bliss.

Don’t believe everything you read…….

2008-05-30T03:16:00.000-07:00

A couple of days back I came across an article in a reputed national daily about a swinger’s party and even though I am a swinger myself I was shocked to see the drooping standards of media. That newspapers had been turned into tabloids is now a generally accepted fact but they would resort to such tricks to attract more readers shows clearly that they have run short of ideas. So as a last resort the editor tells the journalist to come up with some sexually titillating content and the journalist sits down and starts thinking …and viola…he comes with a brilliant idea…the idea which he has been always fantasizing of and he beings to pen his fantasies as if everything really happened. And naturally this is something which has been a part everyone’s fantasies at some point or the other so it becomes an instant hit. This reminds me of a word that I leant form the book “Word Power Made Easy (a book which most of us would have read) – Vicarious. And obviously the journalist also remembered this word well and very shrewdly wrote an article which made the masses indulge in vicarious pleasures.

But why am I writing so strongly against such an innocuous looking report. Because it is anything but innocuous. When people read these kinds of articles they say “Well it was not only me who was thinking of these kinds of things. These things do happen and people enjoy them too”. Now the gap between fantasy and realty blurs and it starts looking like a very normal thing to do. The feeling of being vindicated rules supreme you and you can hear them saying this to their spouses “See this is not only me. Everyone seems to be doing it and enjoying it.” . And suddenly they begin to hear wife swapping stories from everywhere…..from their friends….from their relatives and the desire to try it becomes even stronger and this is where the problem starts. They jump into swinging, encouraged by the stories they hear but only end up having a very bad experience. The point I am trying to make that such stories would always do rounds in the press, in your social circles, in offices etc as they have that sexually titillating effect. Everyone like to talk about them as it gives them that mild erotic pleasure……But we need to remember that no all what we hear is true. And the truth is :

SWINGING IS ABOUT A LIFE STYLE. It can begin as an experiment but can not be an enjoyable experience if you are unable to adapt it as an alternate lifestyle. Genuine swingers are generally very sure and open about their sexuality. Relationships can go bitter over the issues of sexuality so the real swingers are generally very sure as to what they want and what they don’t want. And the most important part is swinger community is a very sensitive community. Swingers Community would collapse if they don’t respect the concerns and sensitivities of others so they never go around spreading stories.

Zorba the Buddha and the freedom to make your own sexual choices

2008-05-21T01:03:00.000-07:00

While doing some general reading here and there I came across this quote of Osho “Only a fulfilled tree will flower.” And I immediately connected it to sexual fulfillment and began thinking about it. To the scientific mind the statement would look so obvious but the problem is that we are imposed so many moralities by the societies we live in that we get blinded and fail to see this obvious scientific truth. We are today living in duality where we are continuously trying to suppress our real self. We do what were expected to do and not what our heart wants us to do. So in a way we have ourselves caged our souls in a fictitious world that the society has created for us and we continue to live our lives with masks on, a mask that is representative of our bondage. So the question I ask is that can someone who does not even have the freedom to make his own choices be termed as progressive? If a man can not be brave enough to make his own choices then how is he going to fight for the greater good?

Wife Swapping - The start of the end of a relationship

2008-05-12T10:06:00.000-07:00

You would be hearing wife swapping stories daily and they are the most read stories on the internet. One time or the other every man would have fantasized about wife swapping but this is where it should stop – just at pure fantasy. Studies have revealed that wife swapping can most of the times destroy relationships more than it builds it. Many claim that wife swapping increases the trust between couples and brings them more because of the very fact that they can share their fantasies openly with their partners. Let’s look at some facts that would bring out clearly a strong case against wife swapping

Its’ never Mutual. Studies say that in 80 percent of the cases men talk their better halves into it. So women who might be averse to the idea become comfortable with the fact with the passage of time.
What if he performed better than me? Well look at the internet sales of certain kind medicines and you would understand what I am talking about. Men are so concerned about the sexual performance that it becomes like an obsession with them. So when you take a stranger to your bedroom and your wife acknowledges the fact that she had good sex with him, all kinds of insecurities start creeping in. Men who were the first so keen about the whole thing start feeling insecure and this kind of insecurity can wreck any relationship.
Everyone’s sexual preferences should be respected: Let’s face it. No two people are the same when it comes to sexual preferences. When men go for wife swapping they don’t really give their wives any choice. Whether they like it or not they have to end up doing sex against their wishes. It is more like forced sex but which women are generally happy to do for the love of their hubbies.

So these are just a few points I made against wife swapping and the truth remains that most couples feel emotionally wrecked after their first swapping experience.

So does that mean that you do not enjoy the ecstasy that you feel after a satisfying sexual encounter with a stranger? NO Certainly Not. This is where SWINGIING PARTIES(sex parties) comes to the rescue. The very nature of swinging ensures that the after effects of any sexual encounter are minimum and the end result is a memorable experience. First of all you don’t take any stranger in to you bedroom, you go to swinger parties and socialize with lots of couples. You are not necessarily under pressure to have sex but you can enoy watching other souls perform the act of sex. Couples and more specifically women can make all the choices. Just because the wife is having sex with someone does not ensure that a man would also having sex with someone :-) And if a man goes in with this knowledge you can be sure that he respects the choices of his wife and that he is mature enough that he wont be effected by any kind of side effect. One more important fact about swing parties is that every activity is happening in the open so for going and becoming a part of that party needs a lots mental preparation and when when you end up in such party you know that you are sure of what you are doing!!!!!!!!

And the last point and that is most important is that that group dynamism(seeing so many people having sex and even group sex) creates such an exhilarating ambience that you feel that it’s a wild party going on and that you must also take part in the festivities and celebrations!!!!!

Threesomes and the Spirituality Meter

2008-04-14T04:40:00.000-07:00

For last couple of days I have been posing this question to every man I meet (nearly every man I meet ) about what his fantasy was and one does not have to be a genius to figure out that nearly 90% of men answered that their fantasy was having a threesome with their better halves and another female. The rest 10% men said(I must confess though that I was surprised by this high percentage) that their fantasy was to see their wife in a threesome with them and another man. Frankly speaking these are the 10% who can be initiated easily into spiritualism because they are not all the times thinking about themselves. They have the sensitivities to care about their better halves too and when you care about others more than you care about yourself you know you are moving closer to god. And for those 90% self centered guys I would only say that your other half has a life too!!!!!

Extreme Programming, Tantra, HIV and the art of living in Ecstasy

2008-04-05T23:14:00.000-07:00

Last night I visited a swingers club in second life and made some very good friends over there. Our conversations wandered through many topics and one topic I broached all of them suddenly stopped and shouted in unison “What, how can it be possible”. Well it was a reaction to the statement I made about feeling joys of sex without actually having intercourse. I remember this was the same puzzled reaction that I gave when I was first being taught about Test First Programming/Extreme Programming- “How can you write test cases for you code before writing a single piece of code?” But now when I am initiated into it I am thankful and even grateful to the concept for now every time I program I can find the joy in programming which other wise was just another mundane job I had to do.

The concept of sex without insertion and ejaculation come from the ancient Buddhism practice of Tantra in Buddhism. One of the basics tenets of Tantra is to look at things without focusing on external material evaluations of what our body looks like, what dress you wear, what is your hairstyle etc but it encourages you to explore new paths to sexual fulfillment. Incorporating ideas of Tantra into your sex life can be something anyone can do regardless of age and sexual orientation. Tantra sex is all about channeling our sexual energies in a way so that it leads to an increased awareness and that ultimately leads to fulfillment and enlightenment. This channeling requires that rather than the energies being released there is a continuous flow of energy in our body that creates a state of ecstasy that always stays with us irrespective of whether we had we had sex or not. So when once masters the art of tantra one remains in constant state of bliss that ultimately leads to a greater understanding of our inner self.

PS: In a world where HIV poses a real threat to the human race so much so that it can actually convert the process of procreation into the cause of human extinction Tantra holds a lot of promise and potential

Swinging to find contentment and get closer to god......

2008-04-01T22:17:00.000-07:00

We as humans have made it a habit to run after everything that can give us material pleasures. In the process we forget the virtues and the joy of that one gets by drowning himself in godliness. A couple of years back I realized that I was also doing the same…..running …running …running , seeking more and more and in the process running away from my self and running away from that eternal feeling of bliss. So one day after a full filling orgy when I was sitting lying on the couch I realized that there were rarely any joys of life that equaled the state of joy I was then in. I was elated. rejuvenated, had a clarity of ideas and most important of all I was in a contended state of mind. And I thanked god for giving me that contentment which was otherwise so hard to find.

So I thought that apart from the purpose of procreation maybe this is more reason for god to have created sex – to gift us a way to feel contended. Maybe he knew that man would be always restless and would run after material things so he created something which was closer to nature and something that could be achieved easily without destroying the harmony with nature and with god. And this always works like a magic charm for me ..whenever I feel restless I go and take part in an orgy with those wonderful souls and come back with a feeling of contentment. And that is the stage when I can rise above myself and work to achieve greater goals and work for greater good. And that is the stage when my race for petty things stops and my inward journey starts

Rules for Our Swingers Club

2008-03-29T01:50:00.000-07:00

To ensure the privacy and safety of our members we have a strict set of rules. To make your experience truly memorable we request you to go through the rules before you request for membership.

MEMBERSHIP

The Party Venues are private and does NOT have an open door policy. Membership is compulsory.
Membership is open to Couples and Single Females only.
Each interested couple must provide a brief profile of themselves. We don't require any photographs or real names but the profile should indicative of your personality.
All members must go though a vetting process before they are taken in as members.
New members must bring ID with them on their first visit to the Party Venue.
The coordinator on the night of the event reserves the right to refuse entrance to the Party Venue without explanation.
No Persons Under Age are allowed in to the Venue under any circumstances.
Smoking/Drinking/Drugs are strictly prohibited.

Note: To ensure the safety and confidentiality we have a very rigid selection process. Please ensure that you are willing to meet the coordinator for a personal chat before mailing to us. This is a "SCREENING STEP" where through a very cordial conversation the coordinator tries to judge whether you would comfortably fit into our swingers universe. The meeting does not guarantee you inclusion in the swingers club. The coordinator holds the right to reject any couple without giving any explanations.

ETIQUETTE

Always ask first!
NO means NO!
NO pressure - NO pestering. NO exceptions!

RESPECT

The party coordinator asks all attendees to please show the utmost respect for the venue and all persons present.
Aggressive behavior will NOT be tolerated and will result in the perpetrator(s) being asked to leave the venue immediately.
Our aim is to foster and encourage a friendly and polite environment where everyone is at ease and relaxed.
If you have any concerns during your visit please advise the coordinator immediately and he will deal with the situation with the utmost discretion. If you are asked to leave please leave quietly with pride and without hindrance.
If you fail to do this your membership may be terminated.
All attendees are asked to arrive and leave quietly

Play Areas

There are designated play areas for the action. Each play area has rules associated with them. We expect every member to strictly follow the rules associated with the play areas. We discourage any sort of action out of the designated play areas

Important Note: Even in a play area a “No” means a “No” full stop.

PERSONAL HYGIENE:

A special message for everyone. Personal Hygiene is a must for close encounters of a "Third Kind".. So... if you cannot afford to buy/use deodorants - soaps/toothpaste etc., please ask the coordinator when you arrive and he will make an announcement regarding your plight and have a whip around for you! :-) (Big Smile)

SAFE SEX

Anyone practicing unsafe sex(even with their own partners) at the party venue would not be tolerated

Announcing the opening of a Swingers Club in Delhi, India

2008-03-26T00:30:00.000-07:00

Well I visited a few swingers club in UK during my last visit and liked the concept very well. Its a great place to socialize and have fun at the same time. It’s a good place to release all your negative energies too. And when you have released all your negative energies you can see the world with a different perspective. This is when you have attained a stage where you can open your senses to attain a state of spiritualism which is other wise so hard to achieve.

Its a pity you don’t have such places in India or at least I don’t know of any swingers club in the true sense. Well I know that other forms like partner swapping is common but have not heard of any swingers club as such. Couple swapping might be good to release that sexual energy but swinging is more natural to achieving a state of ecstasy as it incorporates the principles of "Social Dynamism" which are is very necessary for any such experiments to succeed.

So here I am announcing my intention to open up a swinger club. A club that would be run as a non profit organization but would actively seek to promote spirituality though participating in active swinging. But like any other organization that is formed this one would also need a “Charter” to be formed. And who all can be a part of the charter drafting body?--- Well if you are a couple or a single female then you are eligible (Sorry I cant take the risk with single men in India as their maturity level is still not what would be desired part of such an effort). So I invite all those who might be interested in being the founding members of such a club to mail me at swingers.india@gmail.com and also very briefly telling me about what you do, your personal profile and why you would be interested in being a part of the swingers club

Starting the journey-My experiments with Sexuality

2008-03-24T03:08:00.000-07:00

I have realized that most of the times my thoughts are revolving around sex. I am living in a constant feeling of desire. A feeling that wants me want more and more of sex. The more I have the more joy I get, the more joy I get the more happy I am and the more happy i am the more joy I spread around me.

Someone told me that when you are drowned in godliness you always tend to remain happy and when you are happy you spread joy around. So that makes me think that if the end result of indulging in sexuality has the same results for you and the environment around you as that of spirituality then one thing can be replaced by the other. One word of caution that I would like to add here is that you need to look at sexuality in the right perspective and the right context. You can keep on reading spiritual book for years and yet fail to achieve even iota of spiritualism if you dont see things in the right context. In similar way you need to understand sexuality with an open heart and mind to truly derive benefits that are equivalent to achieving a higher level of spiritual state.